What does Islam say about dating?

Submitted by Musharaf Asghar on Thu, 12/12/2019 - 19:56
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Dating is something that pretty much everyone partakes in, in their life. Some even earlier than others! But what does Islam say about dating and what are its views?

On todays podcast, I spoke to 3rd year Islamic Studies student - Adil Shaikh about Islam and dating.

If you liked the podcast, free feel to share and comment down below!

Enjoy!

Music Credit - Presenter The Only Helper: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tri4z_gNmF4

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Comments

Ollie Hopewell

Fri, 13/12/2019 - 22:36

Your opening piece of music sets the tone of the podcast very well. This was a very interesting subject matter and I have genuinely learned something new, thanks, Mushy!

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 15:16

Thanks Ollie. I appreciate the comments. Glad you enjoyed the podcast!

Oliver Eaton

Fri, 13/12/2019 - 22:57

A good topic to explore. It seems that the Islamic approach is very traditional, such as asking the father, Therefore what are the implications of using modern dating apps such as Tinder or online dating sites?

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 15:17

Good Question Oliver! In response to your question, dating apps are not allowed to be used in Islam. The traditional approach is the approach Islam tailors towards.

Sam Redgate-Large

Sun, 15/12/2019 - 15:22

I think theres nothing wrong with being traditional, asking the father shows a sign of respect for not only father but for the person they are wanting to date too. I think it shows good manners and that you are actually a gentleman.

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 15:18

Cheers Sam! Thanks for the comment. This is why you're a gentleman!

Sam Redgate-Large

Sun, 15/12/2019 - 15:22

I think theres nothing wrong with being traditional, asking the father shows a sign of respect for not only father but for the person they are wanting to date too. I think it shows good manners and that you are actually a gentleman.

Aziza (not verified)

Sun, 15/12/2019 - 17:23

I loved listening to it! I think everyone can have their own opinion. Overall, it was a great podcast

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 15:20

I totally agree. Thanks Aziza for the comment :)

Amy Louise Tough

Sun, 15/12/2019 - 19:46

If someone proposed to me and hadn’t asked my dad I’d say no, it’s a sign of respect in my opinion, I’ve dated people since the age of 14 which to me I was too young, If I could go back I wouldn’t have started dating until I was at least 16, however I do believe in dating, I think it’s nice to get to know someone and what kind of person they are before it gets too serious, love how the music at the beginning and the end really set the tone, gave me a lot of information that I wasn’t aware of

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 15:39

Thanks Amy for the comment. I totally understand what you are saying. I feel people don't really understand the heartbreak of dating at such a young age and this causes an impact. But i can also see as to why people date before marriage to understand the other person. Thanks again for the comment!

Aadil shaikh (not verified)

Sun, 15/12/2019 - 20:29

Thanks for having me on mushy ! Was great working with you keep up the fantastic work!

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 15:40

Thanks Aadil! Thank you for coming on. Loved speaking to you.

Lilly Smith (not verified)

Mon, 16/12/2019 - 14:56

This is a very good response. Definitely open for a debate on this!

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 15:43

Yeah Lilly, let me know what you think? Open to discussion

Liam (not verified)

Mon, 16/12/2019 - 22:23

Loved the podcast mate. Really nice to hear about dating in Islam. Would love a part 2!

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 15:42

Cheers Liam! Thanks for the comment. Yeah maybe in the future!

Sana (not verified)

Mon, 16/12/2019 - 22:24

I loved you on Educating Yorkshire and I am so proud to see how far you have come. Loved the podcast. Really informative

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 15:44

Aww Sana thank you for the comment. How nice!

Iqrah (not verified)

Mon, 16/12/2019 - 22:25

Great podcast. Nice to hear the confidence behind your speech. enjoyed the podcast. keep it up.

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 15:45

Thank you Iqrah for the comment!

Zain (not verified)

Mon, 16/12/2019 - 22:29

Yoo Mushy you legend! Whens educating yorkshire season 2 coming? Podcast was cracking

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 15:45

hahaha thanks bro! No idea, lets see what happens. Glad you liked the podcast

Abu Bakr (not verified)

Mon, 16/12/2019 - 22:40

Very interesting podcast. I agree with what you said bro. Dating before marriage should not be accepted

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 15:52

Thanks Abu Bakr for the comment bro!

Sarah Abbas (not verified)

Mon, 16/12/2019 - 22:43

This given a good understanding into the issue however, i disagree as we should obviously choose who we want to marry

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 15:54

hi Sarah, I understand what you mean, however I feel maybe dating shouldn't be the answer but like Aadil mentioned getting parents involved would be ideal as then you know the person is serious about yourself.

Amy (not verified)

Mon, 16/12/2019 - 22:44

I think its lovely to see that your religion explains dating before marriage is not accepted. too many people get heartbroken

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 15:55

Thanks Amy for the comment. I appreciate your views on this matter. I agree with what you're saying. Glad you enjoyed the podcast

bryony (not verified)

Mon, 16/12/2019 - 22:45

totally disagree with this. I think its nice to date before marriage. so you can know who the person is

Annie Blackburn

Tue, 17/12/2019 - 21:08

Your opening music is such a good way to open the podcast as it is related to the culture in which you are going to be speaking about. having an insight into a religion which is not my own is so eye opening. it is really nice to listen to the topic of dating from a new perspective really makes you think about your own. I do however believe that dating before marriage is necessary in order to know the person fully. I think it would be very hard to marry someone who you hardly know.

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 16:10

Thanks Annie for the comment. I really appreciate your thoughts on this. I understand what you mean in regards to saying dating would be ideal as you need to know who you're marrying. I feel with Islam the main reason it expresses not to date is due to the fact that many people end up heartbroken and as Aadil mentioned in the podcast people can have evil agendas whilst being in a relationship. But thanks for commenting once again I really appreciate it!

Niamh Griffiths

Tue, 17/12/2019 - 21:30

I think it is great to be informed about this as it is not known by many of people. Podcast is really well put together!

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 16:12

Thanks Nimah for the comment. Glad you liked the podcast and definitely I feel many Muslims don't really talk about this matter.

Hussein Ahmed (not verified)

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 15:14

Hello and thank you for this piece. It was put together very nicely and the message you both gave was eye opening and warm. All I would say is that the message you gave was very generalised and did not take into account that people need to actually experience how to interact with members of the opposite gender and also should be able to experience how they fit and get along with people possessing different types of personalities. I’d say instead of literally signing your life away to someone you should experience how you are as a couple beforehand and if it does lead to an unbreakable bond between the couple and if they share similar future aspirations then get married and if not, you have experienced how you are with a certain type of personality/ person and it should make you more wary in the future about the type of person you’re looking for.

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 16:18

Hi Hussein, thank you for the comment bro. I understand your views on this matter but I feel that knowing each other and dating is 2 separate things. I feel if someone is in a relationship and they decide to get quite sentimental and later on they both decide or one of them decides things arent working then it becomes very difficult. My opinion is, I feel being friends is the most reasonable approach as there are no expectations. In a friendship you are able to figure your likes and dislikes in a person and vice-versa. All in all, I respect your comment and I appreciate your views towards this matter. Thank you once again for the comment.

Oscar Lyttle

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 15:54

Mushyyyyy! It's always nice to hear a certain topic discussed in a different light. Good choice of interview. Nice and clear and gets his point across very well. Really interesting stuff here mate and looking forward to the next one buddie! Top work.

Musharaf Asghar

Wed, 18/12/2019 - 16:13

Oscar you legend mate! Thanks for the comment man. Yeah, I guess topics like these aren't really discussed much. Glad you liked the podcast. Yeah man I think a part 2 is needed!

Isheanesu Mutyambizi

Thu, 19/12/2019 - 10:44

This boy is famous ehh..lol..but on the real, great podcast. Really learned something new.

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