Dating in an African Household.

Submitted by SOFIA OWONIKOKO on Fri, 11/12/2020 - 18:12
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Dating; This experience can be exciting as well as stressful. In this podcast we discuss dating within an African household, discovering how my upbringing may differ to others my age, due to cultural differences. We touched on topics such as, the importance of picking the right time to date in order to avoid distractions and heartbreak. I interviewed two Nigerian students that were raised in the UK to talk about their experiences within their household on dating. Following these two discussions, it was only fair that I got the perspective of African parent to see their standpoint on the topic. After listening to this podcast, can you see similarities between my culture and yours? And are you the type to tell your parents about potential relationships? Hopefully you will have gained more knowledge of the Nigerian culture when it comes to dating and enjoyed the little insight given within an African household.

Please feel free to comment down below your opinions about dating and if you agree with my interviewee’s statements or disagree and why? Do you date for marriage or do you date for the sake of dating?

I would love to hear your thoughts.

 

Music Credit– Thanks to Destiny Rufus.

Sound affects – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bvjYnvOh2xE and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5d6C49hlDJY

Inteviewees – Viscount Vincent-Hejirika, Pleasant Adeboye and Tunde Owonikoko.

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Comments

Joe (not verified)

Wed, 16/12/2020 - 18:38

I’ve never really found it difficult to bring anyone home to meet my parents, especially when I’m in a relationship. My family have always been welcoming and supportive of my relationships so have never felt the need to hide it from them. The last time I dated was a few years ago so I wasn’t really thinking about marriage at the time as I was still young and as I’ve grown older I’m definitely looking for something more serious. The podcast was really interesting to listen too as I’ve never experienced my parents being over strict about any of my relationships and has made me realise that it’s not as straight forwards when it comes to dating in other households

Adam (not verified)

Wed, 16/12/2020 - 18:48

I’ve never been the type of person to gout out dating, but I had the majority of my relationships whilst still in school and my parents never saw it as a distraction to my school work and were more supportive. I’ve never seen it as a big deal really but I can understand from the podcast why parents may be worried as relationships at a younger age are more likely to be unserious and pointless. Also I do agree with not dating at a young age cause you are not ready yet and lack good decision making that could affect your future. I’ve definitely looked at dating in a different way after listening to this podcast.

Stefanie (not verified)

Wed, 16/12/2020 - 19:08

I loved listening to this podcast!! My parents aren’t bothered about who I date or if am dating but now that I have giving my life to Christ I am celibate now and I have never been happier. Which has helped me a lot as I used to experience a lot of heartbreaks, so I do understand where pleasant is coming from because now if I was to date someone it will be for marriage.

Sally (not verified)

Wed, 16/12/2020 - 19:18

Very insightful podcast on dating within and African household. Loved it!!!

SOFIA OWONIKOKO

Thu, 17/12/2020 - 15:12

thank you sally

Tobi (not verified)

Thu, 17/12/2020 - 00:37

I’d just like to say that this is a a really good podcast and I’m glad someone is looking into the nature of African parenting. As a fellow Nigerian, I have come to appreciate the rules put in place in regards to dating. This hasn’t always been the case growing up but I have noticed the benefit of prioritising and focus on your main goal which in most cases is to develop yourself as a person whether it be professionally or education wise. However, being secretive is of no benefit as parents are more likely to have been in similar situation personally or by association, therefore I believe you should always tell your parents regardless, Overall, I feel like African parents should adopt a more open and non-judgemental approach to parenting as it helps build relationships between them and their children and allows for clarification on certain topics. It also reduces preventable incidences where a parental input might have saved the child from getting into situations that might be detrimental to their health and well-being.

Tobi (not verified)

Thu, 17/12/2020 - 00:39

I’d just like to say that this is a a really good podcast and I’m glad someone is looking into the nature of African parenting. As a fellow Nigerian, I have come to appreciate the rules put in place in regards to dating. This hasn’t always been the case growing up but I have noticed the benefit of prioritising and focus on your main goal which in most cases is to develop yourself as a person whether it be professionally or education wise. However, being secretive is of no benefit as parents are more likely to have been in similar situation personally or by association, therefore I believe you should always tell your parents regardless, Overall, I feel like African parents should adopt a more open and non-judgemental approach to parenting as it helps build relationships between them and their children and allows for clarification on certain topics. It also reduces preventable incidences where a parental input might have saved the child from getting into situations that might be detrimental to their health and well-being.

SOFIA OWONIKOKO

Thu, 17/12/2020 - 15:12

thank you much appreciated I totally agree with this comment.

Dami (not verified)

Thu, 17/12/2020 - 01:59

I think African parents should be more open to speaking to their children about relationships as it may be detrimental to their mental health. Heartbreak is not something that is easy to deal with in African households as it is dismissed and not seen as important. So battling depression and heartbreak may lead to worst things happening and not having support from family worsens the situation. So for me I would be more open to ensure my children do not go through relationship problems alone especially when I am able to give them proper advice and I would allow them to decide if they want to follow it or not but at least I’ve done my part as a parent. Doing this will help to end the cycle of depression Africans face due to relationship problems by not being able to speak to their parents who are more experienced about it.

SOFIA OWONIKOKO

Thu, 17/12/2020 - 15:10

Thank you for your comment!! I agree with you because heart break can lead to depression and most African parents turn a blind eye to these situation. So it will be nice to be able to discuss such with your parents.

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